10 of 12: A Dozen Days of Twelve Step Concepts

I'm so glad you found this post!  Please note that it's one of twelve in a series - if you haven't seen the previous ones I published on the Twelve Steps, please visit 1 of 12.  That's where you'll find context and links to the resources referenced throughout the series. 

Step Ten

"Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it."

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Any time I get behind the wheel of my car, I realize there's the possibility I may need detours to keep me headed toward my destination safely.  It would be foolish to stubbornly refuse to alter my course when there are potential dangers to myself and others.  Detours aren't my favorite thing, but they're necessary if I intend to make progress.  Step Ten carries the momentum of the previous steps, reminding the Stepper that the walk forward is sure to require amends along the new path s/he has chosen for life in recovery.  Step Ten is the repeated application of all those preceding it.  It is establishment of a new pattern of forward progress that acknowledges one's humanity and recognizes that there will be "bumps in the road." 

Integrity in this Step shifts the power away from defects and the related shame, guilt, and defeat they once had.  It's a far more efficient vehicle that is unburdened with the weight of one's weaknesses and the damage they cause.  When folks are vigilant about their self-evaluation and promptly admit [and rectify when possible], they become more aware of the penchant for missteps as they arise and more apt to sidestep doing harm to others.  It's when we arrogantly dismiss the hurts we inflict that the defect grows and our resolve diminishes.  Therefore, keeping continued watch over thoughts, attitudes, feelings, and patterns of behavior is as helpful in the journey as incessantly watching road conditions, signs, and fellow travelers is on the roadways.

Jotting with Johnna:

• Are you worrying, ruminating, or obsessing over anything?  Such unproductive behaviors invite shame, guilt, and fear to the driver's seat; and only one Driver has true claim to that position.  Write out what's bothering you, give it voice and then do what is necessary to rectify the situation.
• Do you notice you're nursing patterns of behavior and thought which hail to your previous way of being?  Relapse is a common part of recovery; but it can only defeat you if you refuse to Step out of it.
• What actions have you taken today to curb former ways of being?  Take time to write down your "wins" and acknowledge your growth.  

Remember:
A driver will never reach his/her destination without harm to self and others unless s/he is willing to watch for signs, road hazards, and complacency behind the wheel.  You and the others in your life are so very worthy of the peace and calm that is generated by watchful maintenance along the way.

Stay tuned.  Stay focused.  Stay well.