Posts
This is the time of year I most often hear the word, tradition. It's likely because this is a part of the year steeped in symbolism. Whatever the faith background may be, each of us probably experience a bit of nostalgic meaning when certain sensory inputs are presented - the scent of spiced tea, the bright lights strung in and out of homes, wreaths and wondrously-adorned trees... These items are not necessarily exclusive to this time of year, but traditions involving them may be.
A dear friend, April, leaves her "Christmas tree" up all year (intentionally); but most folks practice the tradition of "putting up the tree" and then putting away the tree once the new year is breached. I've hung a sparkly mistletoe decoration in the archway of my foyer, and while it's a nice thought to let it remain, I know I'll be compelled by tradition to tuck it away until next year when the time comes. Some things are made more sacred by their relative absence.
Music this time of year, along with merry greetings from friends and strangers alike, enhance the audible traditions wherever I go. Not everyone is glad and cheery about such things, but such sounds are virtually inescapable. A tradition I haven't engaged in for several years is caroling, taking the tomes of the holiday to others in unison voice. For years, I would carol at the local nursing home; and the joy expressed by those whose memories were refreshed - many of them singing along - still warms my heart. Anyone up for some caroling?
Unfortunately, sometimes people use the "traditions" to pressure others. When one pursues a more health-conscious way of being (especially with regard to food), it's often met with a disdainful, "you must [have/partake/indulge] - it's tradition!" If you recognize that you urge others in this way, I challenge you to break with this tradition; and if you regularly face such pressures, I encourage you to gently do what works for you rather than balk. There is power in a cheerful response; and your loved ones will forget that your abstinence or moderation, but they're not likely to dismiss a discussion if you engage in such dialogue. Start a new tradition.
Jotting with Johnna:
- What symbols, songs, and traditions do you cherish this time of year?
- Are there traditions you'd rather remove from your festival?
- How might you rewrite the script for your holidays to honor your own wellness while maintaining reverence for the wishes of others?
Remember: "it's the most wonderful time of the year," and you can decide for yourself what that means. You are so very worthy of the forethought, compassion, and boundary enforcement involved in protecting your wellness while projecting love to others.
Stay tuned. Stay focused. Stay well.
